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Published by admin on 26 Dec 2012 at 01:35 pm

Miss you, Mom

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1. Becky on 26 Dec 2012 at 6:26 pm #

   I am a long-time reader that may have commented once or twice before. I lost my mom 52 days ago. Yes, I count the days. That may be weird, but I don’t care anymore. I feel completely lost. I feel like the only people who understand are those who have also experienced this sort of loss. With all that said, I have one question. Does it get any better? People say “time heals all wounds” and they are lucky I don’t slap them. I’m 28 and single, hoping to one day get married and have kids. Each milestone will be a constant reminder that’s she’s not there to see and help. Shit, I’d settle for another hug.
   This has to get a little easier. Not better. I’m not asking for better.
   I’d simply like the vise that is tightened around my heart to loosen. Maybe just enough to make me want to get up and live life a little.

2. admin on 02 Jan 2013 at 2:52 pm #

   (I sent this directly in an e-mail to Becky, but wanted to put it here, because I have gotten a couple of e-mails in the past asking how I’m dealing with the grief and how one does it.)

   First, I’m so sorry about your mom. this is a terrible club to be in.

   As for your question, It doesn’t get better per se, but i’d say the edges of the pain get less sharp. I still cry in the shower but less rarely at my desk. Things that would make me cry instantly now make me smile when I remember her. But it is a long slow process, grief, and I’ve found people want you to feel better, but when you don’t they don’t know how to deal with the raw emotion.

   I wish there were more I could say, but there really isn’t.

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